However, let each man of you (without exception) love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband – that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly. Ephesians 5:33 (AMP)
Now if that seems somewhat unrealistic in today’s world, I can tell you from experience that there are two people working together in this scripture, and when they both follow the instructions from God they truly are “as one”, and it truly is the grandest of relationships. My hope is that folks trust it and try it.
If I had wanted to describe the perfect man I could not have imagined this. Only God could come up with a man with such a good, sincere character as the joyful man I married after the “train wreck” of an abusive, Christ-less 22 year marriage.
When I was 42 years old I married a man Ralph E. Wells, who was to this day the greatest Christian I have ever known. Can you think of a person who has been most convincing to you as a Christian? If so, what behavior was so persuasive? I had seen people living by religious practices and rituals, but the more prevalent attitude of folks I knew was that “it wasn’t a good idea to discuss religion or politics”. That attitude will definitely keep folks trapped in a world void of knowledge. Mr. Wells, on the other hand, would talk about both with anyone who would listen. He lived with God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost guiding his life and he felt responsible toward God for sharing about things that brought glory, and not disgrace, to His holy name.
He walked by faith, was delightful and positive all the time, and I began to see living as a Christian in a way that I had absolutely never seen before in any church, town, or country. He was the “real McCoy” and was definitely recognizable as a Christian, consistently. He was strong and manly, but when he prayed tears would flow down his face – not sadly, just touched by the wonder of God. His attitude was always joyful and confident and his motto was “If it can’t be done, we can do it”, and it truly works when you truly believe it. What an unbelievable difference between being married to an ungodly man first, and then to a born-again spirit filled Christian. He called me precious and treated me that way. Surely everyone would love to have a positive, joyful mate, don’t you think?
He also taught me that the Most High does not dwell in houses made by man, and that just because it has “church” as its label does not necessarily mean that God’s presence is within. Church to us included believing, praying, trusting, discussing, singing and listening to gospel music, and devoting our personal service to Him without pay in the ministry of the most wonderful Christian bookstore that ever existed. We witnessed many miracles and wonders through that store. It was like Paradise to our customers as well as to us. That was the greatest preparation ever for the future I was about to face, and for the woman God has given me the heart to be. If you have never witnessed a honest-to-goodness miracle, wouldn’t it be grand to do so? They still happen to those who (unquestionably) believe.
But without faith it is impossible to please and be satisfactory to Him. For whoever would come near to God must (necessarily) believe that God exists and that He is the rewarder of those who earnestly and diligently seek Him (out).
Hebrews 11:6 (AMP)
While believing, also seek the Supernatural God to provide you with a Godly mate who offers true love instead of choosing a mate who has only worldly attributes to offer, no matter how appealing. It will make your life as different as darkness is to a sunny day. You do have the right to choose, no matter what the world thinks!
God bless you, and Amen (so let it be).
About the Author: Dian Wells Matlock is the author of the memoir Come Walk with Me to Glory – an inspirational guidebook to finding your best relationship with God. After experiencing life-altering tragedies, Matlock was compelled by God to tell her story of faith in hopes to spread his Word to those in need. Her book is a story committed to hope and a devotion to God – encouraging readers to live fulfilling lives through His deliverance. Formerly the owner of two successful Christian bookstores, Dian is well versed in Biblical principles and is compelled to share the reality of God. You can find her on the web at http://dianwellsmatlock.authorsxpress.com