Last night, Leila and I had our mom-daughter devotion and we talked about things I wish someone had told me when I was her age. As a mother, I want to be able to equip, inform and endow her with fundamental wisdom that I did not get when I was her age. My adolescence passed by with repeated gaffes, making wrong choices one after the other. What I knew about myself, my body, my talent and my relationships was taught to me by the world. So as much as I can, I'd like my daughter to avoid such peril, the ugly entanglements and the fatal falls. And that is why I try my utmost to be intentional at all times.
I talked to her about God, His Word, her beauty as perceived by the world, herself and our Creator. We also discussed about the seasons that will surely come in her life and how she must see God's sovereignty over all of those, how she will determine God's calling for her, and how much her words matter and how easy she will fall in the trap of the sins of the tongue. I explained that this is not exclusive to spoken words but includes social media ranting and posts which are means of the of the enemy to lure her to grieve God. I told her how humility can go a long way in maintaining and repairing relationships, the importance of apologies and forgiveness. I taught her how she must be bold in sharing and showing her faith, too. I explained how she must "jog and not run", not to be in a big hurry with things but to always align all her decisions and actions to God's word, to plan her life in accordance to God's will for her. I reminded her about purity, how true love waits and how a deserving man will pursue and not confuse her, will protect and not use her. Lastly, I told her the cliche laugh, live and love.
I know these are all so much easier said than done but at the very least I have began planting these wisdom today. This will not definitely be just a one-time one-on-one but will certainly be the beginning of series of talks. I may sometimes be a poor model but I do pray that I will never get tired of striving to be a good one.
To my fellow mothers especially those with still young daughters, it is time to ask ourselves the question--If I don't talk about these things to her, who will?
~~ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. - Proverbs 31:10 KJV
~~ Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. - Proverbs 22:6 ESV
Written By: Tini Tadeo- Castillo
I am primarily a wife and mother to two teens but more than that, I am a woman doing my uttermost to be the woman God has called me to be. I am an online English tutor who dabbles on arts and crafts, events planning, baking and cooking. I write https://www.facebook.com/TiniTesti to share wisdom I have gained from 16 years of being a mother, my journey into being a Proverbs 31 wife and the beautiful love story I have with Jesus.