I know many of you especially to my Christian sisters and brothers, who desperately want to get married are probably thinking, “how can you enjoy your time in your singleness?”. Trust me, it can be done. Before you can truly enjoy your life to the fullness during your single years, there are two things that must be done. Now I’m not saying that your desire for a mate will disappear but these two important things will give you a peace about your situation. When these two things are met, you will be able to free yourself of any anxious and depressive feelings and then live the full life that God intends for you to have. The first thing is that you should have a strong relationship with Jesus Christ and the second thing is to simply love yourself. I want you to sit back and ponder about what I’ve just said. Let it resonate in your mind. I’m going to ask you a very important question. Do you feel that once you meet your husband/wife that you will feel complete or that life will be better? If you answered no, then I’m happy that you are content with yourself and that you don’t need a man/woman to validate you. On the other hand, if you answered yes, then you are looking for love in all the wrong places. Either your relationship with Christ isn’t as strong as you thought, you aren’t happy with yourself or both. It is very important to understand that only God can fill that void that is empty in your life. If you feel that people or things are supposed to make you happy, then I’m sorry to inform you that you will be disappointed. Yes, they may make you happy at times, but people will disappoint you. It’s because they are human and no one is perfect.
Phillipians 4: 11 says “ Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”
During this time, enjoy being with you, your family, and friends. Yes, I said enjoy being with you. It’s okay to spend time just enjoying yourself and God. It’s nothing wrong with taking yourself to the movies or dinner.
I Corinthians 7: 34 says, “There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”
When you are married, you may not have time to do all that you want to do, so while you are single just live life to the fullest.
Here are some ways to enjoy your time!
- Develop your relationship with Christ even more!
- Learn a new language
- Become more involved in your church
- Go on a mission trip
- Learn a new hobby or hobbies.
- Become a Mentor
- Be Proactive in your community
- Participate in a 5k.
And the list goes on. There are so many ways to have a fulfilled life. In conclusion, I want to challenge you to live that fulfilled life while allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you. Proverbs 3:6 says “ In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
Written By: Alena Govan
My name is Alena and I am a single twenty-something woman that loves Christ with all of my heart. Find me on the web at http://singlesliving4him.blogspot.com/