"Don't Judge Me!"

How many times have we heard this? How many times have we said this!? Probably more times than we can keep track of! I’ve seen many times, people enter into conversations over a specific subject. Let’s take a HYPOTHETICAL situation. Again, this is purely hypothetical and in no way directed at another distinct individual: —————————— Billy goes out on Saturday night and parties hard! He spends time with his friends and drinks it up! Shot after shot! He’s having a great time! Billy meets Sally who is also tore up from the floor up! They get together and leave together and enjoy a little consensual “uh huh”, if you know what I mean! The next morning, they wake up and go their separate ways.

Billy gets to church and sings his hymns, takes part in communion and says his prayers like a good little boy. Sally does the same at her church.  Saturday comes back around and it’s time to hit the clubs again! After all, it’s been a hard week.

Turns out, this is the normal for both Billy AND Sally! One day Billy and Sally are both on Facebook and they see someone talking about how we shouldn’t live a sexually promiscuous lifestyle because it goes against the teachings of God and especially, if someone is portraying themselves to be Christians, they are mocking God and setting a false example of how Christians should be. Man, is Billy ever so angry! He responds with a rant about how folks shouldn’t judge other people on how they act that only God can do that! Others post their opinions, for the most, that agree with Billy! Billy ends his comment with, “don’t judge me without taking the speck out of your own eye! Everyone has fallen short of the glory of God at some point!”. ———————————- So, does this sound familiar? Who’s in the right? Is the author of the original post right for saying that these actions shouldn’t be committed by someone claiming Christianity? I answer with a huge, resounding YES!!!!!

Would the author be right if he/she walked up to Billy and explained this straight to Billy in his own circumstance? YES, he would be!!!!

Typically, most people who use the “don’t judge me” line use that line because they’re guilty! Let’s be honest! Guilty as sin and the only rebuttal they have is “don’t judge me”.

“Now, Dewayne, you’re pushing it! The Bible says not to judge!” Really? Let’s take a look at the what the Bible actually says!

Matthew 7:1-2, “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.”

So, you mean if I see you committing an act that the Bible clearly states is a sin, I shouldn’t tell you? WRONG! Look at this verse. When you judge someone, when you hold them to a standard, YOU must be willing to abide by that same standard!!! In other words, make sure you are practicing what you are preaching!

Here’s another verse that says the same thing…. Romans 2:3, “Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God?”

Matthew 7:1-5, “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

THIS is the scripture most used by people making excuses! But what does it say? It says that if you are going to correct your brother, FIRST make sure there’s nothing valid that your brother can use against you because an accused man will turn the tables EVERY time!!!!

John 7:24, “Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.”

Use discernment!!! Know the situation! Make CERTAIN that what you are seeing is EXACTLY what you are seeing! And again, make certain that when you confront your brother or sister, go to the them with a clean heart! But go to them! If your friend was about to step on a rattle snake, would you not stop them?!?! It’s the same with a pit of sin! Once you give in to those temptations, it’s harder and harder each time to resist until you have completely left the fold!

So should we confront our brothers and sister who are caught in sin? YES and it is Biblical to do so! Don’t take my word for it! See if for yourself!

Matthew 18:15, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.”

Galatians 6:1, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.”

Galatians 6:1-2, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

The Bible is very clear about this!!! Believe what you want, but don’t say you believe the Word of God then deny what it says! That makes you a liar and a hypocrite and false Christian! As a matter of fact, the Bible is VERY clear on what should happen if you are confronted about open sin and you fight back…..

Matthew 18:15-17, “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.”

1 Timothy 5:20-22, “Those who are sinning rebuke in the presence of all, that the rest also may fear. I charge you before God and the Lord Jesus Christ and the elect angels that you observe these things without prejudice, doing nothing with partiality. Do not lay hands on anyone hastily, nor share in other people’s sins; keep yourself pure.” Now imagine that!!! What would have if we truly did abide by this last scripture?!?!

If you claim Christ, yet you constantly give in to temptation, STOP! It’s simple as that! Repent and sin no more!

If you see your brother or sister involved in open, blatant sinfulness, by all means, minister to them! But minister to them in LOVE and with an open heart, ready to hear their cries and hurting and ready to offer compassion and a shoulder. Be there with them as they repent. If they refuse to hear you, then share these verses with them. Use spiritual discernment and wisdom. Because, in the nicest possible way…

Matthew 7:21, “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.”


Dewayne G. Guyton Imperfect glob of dirt, striving to be what God wants me to be, no matter man’s opinion.


Married to my best friend, the love of my life, Kellie Guyton. I have the most wonderful, beautiful son, Nathan. I firmly believe that you cannot measure a man by his circumstance, but only by how he handles that circumstance. When I die, I only want a few things said, “he was a good and righteous man who loved God, loved his family and was loved”. If I accomplish nothing more, then I’ve accomplished the world. I pastor in the United Methodist churches, however, I hate being labeled by denomination. If we are all children of God, then the sign over the door shouldn’t matter!