Life doesn’t have to beat you up. Circumstances need not keep you down. Positions have no power to keep you stuck. Hurts won’t last if allowed to heal. Behaviors and attitudes can change. Change is a certainty of life, but learning from past mistakes can be your most valuable asset. No matter how responsible you are or how congenial you may be with people, you will inevitably slip up on moments that are uncomfortable and threatening.
It doesn’t have to intimidate or bankrupt your self-esteem or self-confidence. Yes these oftentimes are private struggles hidden from view, and now is the time to confront them. You will never conquer what you are not willing to confront.
I firmly believe it is possible to push and break self-imposing barriers and live with no regrets.
Here are some ways to make the sustainable transformation:
1.There is more life in your life
If you were to split yourself open and see a panoramic view your inner workings and capabilities you’d be astounded. There is more life in your life. Don’t be afraid to want for more, ask for more and go after more.
The opportunities are embed in your disappointments, frustrations and losses. This will help smooth over the personal development and life improvement scars and instead turn them into successes.
2. Live life intentionally.
That is to intentionally get involved with your life. A running back doesn’t run through human blockages, trips and flips over backwards to score a touchdown and says, “This is amazing! How did I do that?”
Of course he has to train in the rain, snow, wet, cold, doubt and perhaps without. He perseveres. Before his body learned those maneuvers, his mind orchestrated them first. That’s the foundation. The mind is his training field. I’m reminded of Paul’s metaphor about training for a race:
"Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win!All athletes are disciplined in their training. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified." 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 (NLT)
3. Tackle stagnated thinking.
Thought design takes the prize every time. Forward, contemporary progressive thinking is a barrier breaker.
You simply cannot remain the same if your mind is pulling you onward. What do you say to the fighter who’s in the fight but is not aiming at anything? Something is wrong with his sparring habits! Discipline intentionally.
It is difficult to put new wine into old wine skins just as it’s difficult or rather impossible for me to design a home in the midst of the existing clutter. It obviously must be removed for the design installation to be effective.
There must too be a method for handling the clutter of life: the clutter of pain, subordination, being stuck, insecurity, loneliness, subordination, regret or domination. A thought renovation must take place prior to the design. Lifedesign will help you to create the life of your choosing. It is not necessarily quick and it will not always be easy—it will always be possible.
About the Author: Dr. Deana Murphy, America's 1st Interior LifeDesign Doctor, is an life development speaker and awarding winning author who is on assignment to help one million women find the answers they need to create a brilliant reality lifestyle story that reflects her truest passions, authentic values, desires and deepest integrity.
Dr. Deana specializes in showing over-shadowed women how to renovate their lives, cope and manage life so they aren't over-shadowing others so they can get unstuck, reclaim their identity and live with no regrets. Her proprietary 360 Interior Living S.Y.S.T.E.M. (Shaping Your Spirit To Eliminate the Mess) helps women with their personal development and confidently renovate their lives and grow. Visit Dr. Deana at http://DeanaMurphyGlobal.com and her blog at http://DeanaMurphy.com